I took the opportunity to get to know L during her recent visit to Seattle, where her partner has been offered a job. We spent the day looking at neighborhoods, touring homes on the market with an agent, and enjoying relaxed fellowship over food and symphonic music at day's end.
It seems that in the unspoken words the crucial issues emerge. The need to be be recognized, acknowledged, considered, and valued in her own right, separate and equal to that of the candidate. Seeking a measure of empathy, compassion, and understanding.
Someone asked if my time with L had been a success. "Is she sold on Seattle? Is she OK with the move?" I painted the picture as I saw it and as Albert Einstein advised: “Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value.”